Before I became pregnant with my first child, I was afraid of childbirth.
Then I learned about natural birth, and began embracing the truth that women’s bodies are made for birthing. I began to feel confident and capable about experiencing pregnancy and birth for myself.
But the real clincher, the reason I finally decided that I was going to become a mother, was learning about supernatural childbirth.
I learned a mind-blowing (yes, mind-blowing!) truth about childbirth that completely obliterated any worries I once had about the process of birthing a baby. We were given a book called Supernatural Childbirth, and through it we learned about the power of speaking God’s word over our lives, and believing in God’s promises. We have so much goodness available to us through Jesus! I learned that we can have victory over every area of pain in our lives through the victory of Jesus on the cross.
Supernatural childbirth is using God’s word to overcome challenges related to childbearing. The Bible supports every woman’s ability to conceive, gestate without sickness, pain, or fear, and give birth in safety and without pain (or drugs)—all within the plan of God and the power of Jesus.
As with everything in life, our experience is found where God’s will and our faith meet. What I mean by that is more complicated than I can really explain fully in this post, but in simplified terms, it is our job to ask and believe, and it is God’s job to act within his perfect will. Sometimes things don’t go exactly as we wish, but God does use it all for the good. And no matter what situations we see around us, we should never, ever, ever stop asking and praying for his miracles.
But back to birth.
Birthing can also be supernatural whether it involves discomfort or not. Although my births were not completely painless, they were some of the most powerfully spiritual experiences I have had in my life. I have never felt so completely held in the arms of Jesus as I did when I was birthing my children. I needed him in a very real way in those moments, and he met me there.
“That’s great,” you might be thinking. “What about the pain, though?” Let’s not gloss over this important (and valid) concern.
While some births are more comfortable than others, I strongly believe that birth does not need to be excruciating by any means. A huge factor in our experience has to do with our mindset and our expectations. Unfortunately, we live in a society where we are told repeatedly from a young age that birth is the most painful experience imaginable. It’s no surprise that that’s what many of us experience, considering that this belief is so deeply engrained!
When I hear people saying childbirth is “pain with a purpose,” or that “the pain is so powerful, but I can handle it,” I can’t help but cringe. Why are we setting ourselves up for the worst? Wouldn’t it be better to hope for the best?
Hypnobabies is one way we can set ourselves up, mentally and emotionally, for the best possible experience in birth. But for Christians, we have an even more powerful tool at our disposal as well– our faith!
Sometimes, the Bible is used to support the idea of painful birthing as some kind of rite of passage. Genesis 3:16 says, in part, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children.” But as most Christians eventually come to realize, not every part of the Bible is directly applicable to us today.
This section of the Bible is about the fall of humanity, or the “curse” that humans brought on themselves by rejecting God and his plan. But Jesus offered redemption from our state of brokenness. Because I believe in Jesus, I am not fallen, but redeemed, through the grace of God! Therefore, my childbearing experience is not the experience of a cursed woman, but the experience of a woman living in God’s abundance and delivered from pain and suffering through the love of Jesus.
Is that hard for you to believe? You’re not alone. “Everybody knows that childbirth is painful,” one could say. Almost any woman who has given birth will testify to the horrible pain that she experienced in labor and birth. I’d even venture to say that most Christian women are in that group.
I believe that the key to breaking the mold here is faith. The Bible says that God will meet you where your faith is. In Matthew 9:29, Jesus healed a group of blind men, saying “According to your faith let it be done to you.”
In Supernatural Childbirth the author says this: “People often fight for the right to suffer… The Word says you can do things God’s way. You can do things other ways as well. You can be sick, and God will still love you. You can be poor, and God will still love you. You can be barren, and God will still love you. You can live in pain, and God will still love you. But God says there is a better way. Jesus has paid for salvation, healing, prosperity, deliverance and blessing.” It is up to each individual to decide in their mind and heart whether to believe God for what he has promised.
Romans 12:2 says “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” I can choose to conform to the ways of the world, and give birth in the way that the world says I will; or, I can choose to renew my mind according to God’s Word, and transform my birth into a peaceful, joyful, and comfortable experience, which I believe is God’s perfect will for me.
As Christians, we can use both our faith and the power of our minds to experience more comfortable birthing. Birth is easier for some than others, but it doesn’t have to be unbearable for anybody. It can be a wonderful experience, one that you will always treasure.
If you aren’t a Christian yet, but you want to open your heart to God and his promises, you can learn more here! (on my personal blog, I Do… Now What?)